Healing the Children of Narcissistic Parents: New Book Release

I am so excited to announce that I will be publishing an upcoming new book for adult children of narcissists! This has been a book that has been a long time coming. I have written countless articles, made numerous videos and spoken in multiple interviews about what it’s like to be raised by a narcissistic parent and how these experiences affect us in adulthood due to the trauma repetition cycle. In this essay collection, I explore not only the impact of this type of toxic upbringing but how we can heal as adults.

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ABOUT THE BOOK: Healing the Children of Narcissists: Essays on The Invisible War Zone

Those who have had a narcissistic parent can testify to how damaging it can be to one’s psyche. Narcissistic parents lack empathy, show a severe sense of entitlement to micromanage the lives of their children and often subject their children to neglect, as well as emotional, psychological and physical abuse.

From the unique challenges daughters of narcissistic fathers face to the ways in which adverse childhood experiences affect our brains, Shahida Arabi’s insightful essays resonate deeply with those who have been raised by narcissistic parents.

In this new essay collection, Arabi explores how narcissistic abuse in childhood can set us up for trauma repetition in adulthood, affecting how we navigate relationships, the self, and the world. She pinpoints the toxic traits and behaviors of narcissistic mothers and fathers, exposing how covert abuse insidiously plays out in these specific dynamics. She offers the essential tools, skill sets and healing modalities for survivors who have undergone a lifetime’s worth of abuse, helping them to break the cycle once and for all for future generations.

ABOUT THE AUTHOR:  Shahida Arabi is a summa cum laude graduate of Columbia University graduate school, where she studied the effects of bullying across the life-course trajectory. She is the #1 Amazon bestselling author of three books, including Becoming the Narcissist’s Nightmare: How to Devalue and Discard the Narcissist While Supplying Yourself, featured as a #1 Amazon Bestseller in three categories and as a #1 Amazon bestseller in personality disorders for seventeen consecutive months after its release. Her most recent book, POWER: Surviving and Thriving After Narcissistic Abuse, was also featured as a #1 Amazon best seller in Applied Psychology.

She is the founder of the popular blog for abuse survivors, Self-Care Haven, which has millions of views from all over the world. Her work has been shared and endorsed by numerous clinicians, mental health advocates, mental health professionals, and bestselling authors.

For her undergraduate education, Shahida graduated summa cum laude from NYU where she studied English Literature and Psychology. She is passionate about using her knowledge base in psychology, sociology, gender studies, and mental health to help survivors empower themselves after emotional abuse and trauma. Her writing has been featured on Salon, Psych Central, Bustle, The National Domestic Violence Hotline, The Huffington Post, MOGUL, The Meadows, Thought Catalog, The Rebelle Society and Harvard-trained psychologist Dr. Monica O’Neal’s website.

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TC Books Interview: Shahida Arabi On Being A Bestselling Author, Poetry, And Channeling Pain Into Purpose

For a limited time, get 90% off a paperback copy of my poetry collection for survivors using the promo code light at checkout. Purchase here.

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12 Of The Most Common Lies Sociopaths And Narcissists Tell – Translated

It’s common knowledge that manipulative personalities tend to engage in a great deal of pathological lying and deceit. Yet there are common lies narcissists and sociopaths tell their victims that, if translated to the truth, would expose the reality behind their actions. When expressed by a predatory personality in the context of manipulation, the following statements carry a far different and darker meaning.

Here are twelve of the most common lies narcissists and sociopaths tell us, translated into what they actually mean.


12 Of The Most Common Lies Narcissists and Sociopaths Tell, Translated Into Truth