20 Diversion Tactics Highly Manipulative Narcissists Use to Silence You

20 Diversion Tactics Highly Manipulative Narcissists, Sociopaths and Psychopaths Use to Silence You by Shahida Arabi via Thought Catalog


“The difference between constructive criticism and destructive criticism is the presence of a personal attack and impossible standards. These so-called “critics” often don’t want to help you improve, they just want to nitpick, pull you down and scapegoat you in any way they can. Abusive narcissists and sociopaths employ a logical fallacy known as “moving the goalposts” in order to ensure that they have every reason to be perpetually dissatisfied with you. This is when, even after you’ve provided all the evidence in the world to validate your argument or taken an action to meet their request, they set up another expectation of you or demand more proof.” Read the rest of the article here.

(1) Gaslighting

(2) Projection

(3) Nonsensical Conversations from Hell

(4) Blanket Statements and Generalizations

(5) Deliberate Misrepresentation

(6) Nitpicking and Moving Goal Posts

(7) Changing the Subject to Escape Accountability

(8) Covert and Overt Threats

(9) Name-Calling

(10) Destructive Conditioning

(11) Smear Campaigns and Stalking

(12) Lovebombing and Devaluation

(13) Preemptive Defense

(14) Triangulation

(15) Bait and Feign Innocence

(16) Boundary Testing and Hoovering

(17) Aggressive Jabs Disguised as Jokes

(18) Condescending Sarcasm and Patronizing Tone

(19) Shaming

(20) Control

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8 thoughts on “20 Diversion Tactics Highly Manipulative Narcissists Use to Silence You”

    1. Hi Shannon, each page has about 2-3 signs. There are 7 pages. You can click through the article from the beginning and go through all the pages if you’d like, the organization is just to make it more clear which signs are on which page.

  1. Your bold brash compassionate sharing of knowledge about the dynamics in a narcissistic relationship and how to take action that promotes a focus on healthy proactive self-care has changed my life in a positively explosive way. Thank you 🙂

    1. You are spot on with your comments. She is definitely helping me get through a contentious divorce from a narcissist. I am grateful to everyone who has shared their positive thoughts. I do not feel so alone anymore.

  2. Thank you, Shahida, for an excellent article! I work with crime victims in a District Attorney’s office and would love to be able to provide those who have been abused by their partners with this information. Too many of them blame themselves for the abuse and have never had the dynamics of the crime explained to them, partly because our caseload limits the time I can spend with each victim. I understand that your article is copyrighted and wanted to know if it would be possible to get your permission to provide it to some of the victims we serve, and if so, how do I go about that? Thank you.

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