No Contact Monthly Online Coaching For Abuse Survivors

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Sign up for my monthly online No Contact coaching!

Are you struggling in the aftermath of a toxic relationship with a narcissistic or emotionally unavailable partner? Are you looking for a way to maintain No Contact or Low Contact during this time? What about healing strategies that will enable you to move forward from the gaslighting, the covert and overt put-downs, the cognitive dissonance and the low self-esteem you may have suffered during and after this type of relationship?

You will receive:

*Weekly support and motivational e-mails regarding No Contact and self-care.
*Personalized support available via e-mail and supplemental videos regarding your personal situation.
*Free customized meditation and positive affirmation mp3s to aid you in your healing journey. These will be personally made for you and your unique goals and needs.
*Tailored resources that help you build strategies to tackle your specific weaknesses and strengths.
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Why a coaching program? I am very grateful that my blog has been able to help millions of people learn more about narcissistic abuse and toxic relationships. My bestselling Kindle book, The Smart Girl’s Guide to Self-Care, has also helped abuse survivors on their journey to healing by providing them with a self-care toolkit.

However, I receive e-mails and requests from all over the world from people who are struggling to heal after this type of abuse – people who need tools and positive reinforcement tailored specifically to them to actively tackle the journey ahead and conquer their addiction to the toxic relationship on all levels – psychologically, spiritually and physically.

Is this program like therapy? This program is not a substitute for therapy – it is meant to be a supplement to your healing regimen. I highly recommend that survivors of abuse consult a mental health professional trained in both emotional and physical abuse during their recovery process. Unfortunately, due to the lack of attention given to narcissistic abuse among mental health professionals, not all professionals are able to provide a sensitive and validating approach to victims of this type of covert psychological abuse. There may be a few professionals who unintentionally re-victimize their clients when they invalidate their experiences and ask them to look at their part in the abuse.

While it’s certainly admirable to look within for self-improvement, this type of invalidation can also make victims feel as if the covert abuse they are experiencing is not legitimate – which actually further gaslights them into staying within the relationship to make things work. Many survivors can benefit from sharing their story with another survivor who has been through similar experiences in addition to seeking therapy.

My approach is different.  I want to provide my coaching clients a balance of introspection as well as validation for their experiences. I want to both teach and learn from other survivors about their particular needs, goals and desires so that this remains a coaching partnership rather than a one-sided teaching relationship. I want to use my educational coursework in psychology and sociology, my personal research into this topic, my numerous life experiences as an abuse survivor as well as the challenges thousands of readers have reached out to me with to guide you on the journey to healing – in a way that is deeply personal and specific to your current situation.

If you’ve ever read my blog comments or responses on my YouTube channel, you know that I try my very best to give extensive replies to my readers which include both resources and encouragement. Due to time constraints, however, I’ve never been able to coach them individually throughout their healing journey. I would now love the opportunity to make this possible.

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Read more testimonials about my work here.

For this coaching program, I value quality over quantity. This means I will work with a small number of people every month who I feel are in sync with my coaching mission rather than a large number where the quality of my services may become diminished. The reason I do this is simple: I want to provide you with the most quality service and personalized attention possible. 

The total cost for one month’s worth of online coaching is only $45
which can be submitted via PayPal (upon approval of coaching, you will receive an invoice). That’s $45 for a whole month of support, inspiration, motivation, resources and guidance during No Contact with your toxic ex-partner. You may also use this program to jumpstart the healing process and also engage in better self-care. You are under no obligation to continue the program for the next month – but if you would like to continue to do so, I would be excited to continue to help and support you on your healing journey.

Individual consultation e-mails – which consist of a detailed response complete with guidance to resources range from $15-$25 depending on the situation. Please still fill out the form below and add “consultation” if you feel you would prefer a consultation rather than the coaching program.

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I look forward to working with you! I ask that you provide me with some information about your particular situation and your needs before we get started so that I can ensure I help you to meet your unique goals.

Please fill out the form below and click submit so we can get started! Once approved, I will e-mail you at the e-mail address provided.

“As I look back I would say being in a relationship with a narcissistic abuser was like being shackled to a lunatic in the darkest corner of Bedlam. Of course you don’t even realise its happening until it’s too late and you are lost in their empty, evil world. I left so confused and unsure of what had happened to me, with the support of my mother and then finding Shahida online I could educate myself, empower myself and heal. Shahida taught me so much and I am so thankful to have found her.

My relationship with him was textbook; I read Five Powerful Ways Abusive Narcissists Get Inside Your Head. It was as if Shahida had been writing about my life in the last two years. He was everything she wrote about and it all clicked into place.

After being in such a muddled headspace, Shahida sorted my head out and I am stronger than ever, she taught me everything I needed to know and with this knowledge I got my life back. These people are very dangerous, they are never happier until you are confused and at the mercy their control. I would never allow someone to take away my happiness. You should never allow anyone to take away your peace of mind. I am so grateful for my family and Shahida for getting me over such an awful experience. Shahida is an incredible woman and is inspiring so many women all over the world. It is my aim to educate and help other sufferers, empower them and give them back their peace of mind something that narcissistic abusers will never have.” Zayn Clyre, Advocate, Actress, Model, Coaching Client.

 “I knew I was in a bad relationship, my friends and family knew I was in a bad relationship, but neither I nor they were aware of the real trouble that was going on.  I was so completely handicapped by the shameful gaslit thoughts that I played a major role in the dysfunction, that I had not been honest with anyone about the degree of abuse that was going on.
Discovering Shahida’s article, “5 Ways Narcissistic Abusers Get Inside You Head” opened my eyes to the psychological trap I had been lured into. Her wisdom on the subject of narcissistic abuse has been an emotional north star to guide me in a direction precisely inverse to the power and control of my ex. Walking away from him felt much like walking away from a cult where he was the leader and I was the disobedient member, never knowing my role and forever provoking him. While it was the right thing to leave, it felt very much like the wrong thing initially. Her insights on the impacts narcissistic abuse can ensue on the victim have been nothing short of enlightening. They have sturdied my spine in the many moments of doubt, arched back my shoulders when I’ve huddled in a ball resistant to cope, and widened my inner aperture when I struggled to let the light in.
Through online coaching and her tailored meditations she has been a key ally in my journey to healing while also affirming the importance of being a key ally to myself. I feel that Shahida has brought a unique and crucial perspective to my life during a very difficult time. I needed that educated voice that saw through all the manipulative tactics, that could forecast the very predictable behavior of a narcissist once you have left them, that gently nudged me to maintain no contact while understanding the addictive urges to reach out or respond to my ex, and that reassured me that by maintaining no contact I was not being cruel or immature or vengeful (as my ex had suggested)…[Shahida] is a giving soul, an astute writer and in fight to free yourself of a narcissist’s ploys, she is an invaluable resource in have in your corner.”Tara, Coaching Client
More testimonials regarding Self-Care Haven can be found on the main website here.

Interested in learning more about narcissistic abuse? Pre-order my new book on narcissistic abuse, Becoming the Narcissist’s Nightmare: How to Devalue and Discard the Narcissist While Supplying Yourself.

Becoming the Narcissist's Nightmare Also be sure to check out my first book, The Smart Girl’s Guide to Self-Care.

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